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Long time peeps. So I broke up yesterday night with the guy I thought was "The One". It was quite emotional for me even though I tried to  feign Calm. He spent the night, he tried to touch but I told him off. This morning, I woke him up and told him he had to leave, I told him I didn't want to leave him inside like I usually did. He beg and pleaded that he needed me in his life and I should not abandon him now. While he packed his stuff, I got so emotional and started crying especially when he left. I burst into a serious fit and he came back hugged me and told me it'll be ok. I told him I was fine, so he left to go again. He told me to see him off to the back door of which I did...then he got emotional (Something told me he was faking it), that was when I regained my cool and stance not to be manipulated with this display of emotions. I had made my stance very clear to him.
1. He should delete the pictures of the lady in question on Facebook
2. He should introduce me to her
3. He should pay me what he owes me
4. Allow me know his place of work.

I'm way shocked even though I saw the signs but I decided to have patience and hang on till I get a clearer picture of thing. I did and He is a terrible lair. I'm really disappointed in him.

Please I just need to move on with my Single Life. When "The One" come fine...If he doesn't even better. 

I find it pretty hard to trust guys these days.

Hi Peeps.

I hope the "about to end" July is doing  you well? Do you what to know how it was for me? OK, for me, I would say it was pretty tough-as usual right? Anyways I will get to that later.

What actually bugged my mind this morning to write here was that, while enjoying a glass of cold water and looking out the window of my office, I saw a young man, say age 25, holdig this young girl about the age of 12. It was broad day-light, 11am to be precise, it was in the open light, which means, they probably had nothing to hide, yes, maybe just a brotherly friendly hold on the shoulders. But then, my mind kept pricking me, coupled with all the stories you hear about rape and which seems quite to be on the increase. What did I do? I tried to enter the mind of the guy, trying hard to imagine what he could possibly be telling the little girl, probably, come see me when you're free or whatever. I had to cut myself short from making  further assumptions. Then I saw he let the girl go, probably on an errand she ws sent, while he walked away. My eyes followed the young girl, and I coudn't just help but try to see into her. I wached her steps and the way she walked, hoping it could lend an eviednce to my assumptions. She seemed happy and matured, by matured I mean exposed. I wish, I was four floors below, where I would have tried to make friends with her and possibly one day when she has gaing conficence in me, she would open up. But I can't, I'm too caught up in my own stress to wonder about anyone right now. Work calls and I leave the window consoling myself that I still have time to save lives.

Happy New Month in advance

Still on Ob matter!

Hi Peeps.

I have wanted to write alot about all I have been through, but because of the time, unavailable internet -we've been limited acces to the internet in the office 1pm-2pm, I couldn't. But something happened yesterday. On my way back home from work ,while inside a Keke, I sighted my Ex, OB driving  through. I was grateful, I was not a few minutes later, if not, chances that he would see be would have been greater. 

Rewind to Last Month or there about,.....

OB had been calling me, telling me stuffs like he dreams about me, asking me what I am putting on including the colour of my underwear. Who does that?...and to your Ex for that matter? He is just one sick dude. Funny enough I looked forward to hearing his voice even though I don't respond to his inappropriate questions. Some months earlier, before his calls became more constant, he called me to tell me he did his introduction the Saturday before. He said he was just calling all his Exes to apologise and ask for forgiveness if he wronged them in anyway. I told him I held no grudge against him and that I am happy in my relationship. He sorta acted amazed that I was in another relationship so soon.  During the call, I felt a little jealous thinking it would have been me the introduction was done for. But After the call was over, I was so sure I was not jealous but rather I was glad to be done and over with him. Marrying OB would be me pulling the trigger on myself. After the call, Something told me he was lying. The OB I know can't settle down now, No! definitely not now. Maybe in the next 10 years but not now. So I realised he just said it to get a reaction from me. Maybe to see if I still had the affections for him.

After that call, his calls became more regular and he saying he would take me out to the movies and bla bla. 

During a session with my Coach, David, I told him about these happenings, and he adviced me as a friend to end all communication with OB until I am ready , when he can have no effect on me, emotionally or otherwise.

So I sent the dude an SMS saying 

" Hi OB, I trust you're good. With no ill intentions, I want you not to call me again. I'm going through a phase and I need absolutely no contact with you. thanks"

So Today..  I was on facebook and saw a post by OB. He talked about me there, actually yabbed me.

"been outta facebook for a while but from a microscopic view, i can just see a world where everyone is living on the Internet! funny though but with badoo,twoo,Bb,twitter, and a host of others. how can we genuinely be real? 

like seriously i get to read a whole bunch of garbage on my page, but hold on!!!!!!!, you who is about to suggest " i'd better change friends" its just damm irritating to have someone who dsnt give a f**k u, ask u vote for a family member to make it into professional football WTF is dat.

i still reside on the side that says there cant be a better decade than the 80's nowadays theres a whole lot shit going on social media like the one you just read!!! whateveaaaaaa!!!"

The text in red is where he threw the jab at me. I shared a link on Facebook, two days ago asking friends to vote for my brother, to who was contesting for an opportunity to partake in a football trial. 

To cut my story short. I'm glad,, I still affect him somehow... Maybe he rally misses me! *Smiles*

Holding on to empty perfume bottles.

So during the weekend I disposed of three empty perfume bottles I've held onto for three years or thereabout. Sure enough, they were kinda ofwhat I will call expensive perfumes. Please note that I didn't buy any myself. One of them, "fantasy" by britney spears was from my aunt. Another, "hugo boss", was from a man that wanted to marry me . Then the third one "lovely" by jessica parker was given to me by my dearest female friend. It was half used anyway and the fragrance is heavenly. So i've been holding on to these bottle for the crazy reason that they are the most expensive I've used.
Does anyone out there do the same?
I love designers perfume but bringing out such huge amount of money to purchase one ain't funny, when there are very good Impostors out there like the "designer impostors" of years back, i don't know if they still exist but there's the "smart" collection now. These guys are good. They give you just that perfect scent for peanuts. And you know what? Even some rich Oil workers stock their dressers with a variety of these smart products.

Dating married Men.

Ok. Was in one of these threads of facebook and the question was how do you tell a married man chasing you off? The best answer in my opinion was by a lady who said she would tell the man to give her sometime so she could contact his wife for approval. Lmao. Some didn't get the lady's joke anyway.