Thursday, May 9, 2013

I finally moved out of my Aunt's place.

Hey peeps, I eventually made the move I'd wished for so long. I tried so hard not to whine about it here on my blog, but it was something that really made me depressed. The journey from my Aunt's place to work and back everyday was not something I would even wish my enemies.

Remember, the other Aunt i stayed with in gbagada, the one whose house I ran away from, anyways, I went to visit her when we got talking. She asked me about the house search I embarked on some time ago. I told her the search was stalled because, my brother who I was to live with travelled out and beside, the money burgrtted for it has been spent on something else. She sorta suggested, since she would be moving to her own house, that I could raise the rent for her present place and take over it after she moveed. This idea was beyond fantastic. I was overwhelmed with joy, because Gbagada is a place aftr my heart. There was a dbig BUT. FUNDS! How was I to raise Three hundred thousand Naira in a few weeks, when all the money I make is virtually spent on transport and lunch? So I allowed it slid and tried to forget about everything, making up my mind to endure the transport stress till I enter my husband's house.

One fateful day, while communicating with my Sister, i told her about the proposition of my aunt, and she told me not to alow the opportunity slid but to take it. I explained to her that I didn't want to go around borrowing money from peole to pay and she was like, there was no big deal, but those who really mean well for me would give me a helping hand. I still let it slid

another day, I met with my friend and life coach and told him about everything and he too told me to go for it. Afterall this was like the first step to the better life I had always dreamt of.  After this episode, I summoned the courage and composed a text to send to people I call my friends and those I believed were doing well in general.


"Hi dear. Good Morning. Pls I'm in dere need of fund to help me complete payment for a decent accommodation I found closer to my place of work. It is for 300k, but I've raised only 150 and the arrangement requiresme to raise the cash this february. so I humbly ask yu for a loan of whatever you think you can spare to assist me. I hope to be able to pay back in 4 months. Thanks. Will call you back to get your response"

Above is the text I sent out. Most of them told me later, after I had raised the money that they thought it was a spam message. Some said they had some project at hand so wouldn't be able to spare. Some never responded, didn't even pick when I called. Anyways to cut a very long story short, I raised the cash.

My darling Friend Maureen, She's one in a billion, raised me One hundred and fifty thousand, Another friend, Chinwe raised me Fifty thousand, my dear Dad, raised me another 50. The story with my dad is another one that depressed me so much. When I told him i needed 300 thousand, if he could loan me, he was in summary disappointed that i could after years of working still be asking him for money, when I should have started being responsible for my younger ones. Somehow, i was angry that he thought that way, did he think I had the money and didn't want to help out? I was really angry with him then. Forgiven him and myself though.

I raised the money, my boyfriend delayed me in paying it to my Aunt, he said I should pray about it before going further.

Anyways, after the prayer and fasting, I paid her the money, she gave it to the agent two days later.
......to be continued

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

My comfort Zone.

I've become so comfortable where I am or have I? No! I'm not..at least psychologically, I'm not. I'm not where I'm suppose to be, but then I find myself relaxing in my present position and angry at the same time for being where I am. Funny enough, I'm the only one who can change my situation...maybe I have been waiting for someone to give me a push (Motivation), but it's not coming. So I've got to push myself, by myself..to where I need/want to be. I don't know If I have ever told you I wanted to go into fashion- for a long while I've had that in mind. I made effort even during service and while I was still in Gbagada with my aunt, but it didn't come through. I even almost got involved (marriage talks) with  someone who had the same passion as I have for fashion (that would have been a grave mistake). I have come up with a business plan-not totally drawn out though, on how to "start" in this passion of mine. I believe if I start there would be no looking back. Come January ending I intend to get the ball rolling with Chiek Couture. lol. Just call me Chiek.

Here is a sketch of my new logo/Monogram- yet to be developed.
My new Logo








I have a logo people know me with, it was created since my 4th year in school  but all of a sudden I thought it didn't just  fit to be used for a fashion line, So I came up with the new one above.
The one for architecture









Wish me God's grace.

This is Welcome.

I not only welcome you to this site, but myself also. It welcome to me not because it's my first time blogging but because, I am blogging for a different reason. I blogged at shesearches@blogspot.com, which was an online journal but move it to an entirely different site- WordPress  I changed (re-branded) the  the  shesearches@blogspot.com to this which I intend to use purely for design purposes.

I am an architect by training and a creative and innovative person by nature. My start might not be fantastic, but I had to convince myself to just start. I believe I'll surely get better for it as the days go by.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Happy 2013 Guys!

Finally got the opportunity to update my blog- thanks to the office resumption.
Honestly, I'm lost for words to write or even say. My emotions are just so mixed up. I've still not been able to sort them, or maybe I don't want to sort them. I don't know.

Just a rundown...
  • He stopped calling me. DO
  • He got me a watch for xmas/new year, but now I think it was actually a farewell gift.
  • We finally went to see the movie I was owing us. It was a morning movie and he hurriedly left.
  • He stopped replying my messages and chat
  • I think he lied.
To more interesting things:
  • I traveled home to see my folks. It was all Sleep, cook, sleep, cook...I didn't eat much. Didn't find the appetite.
  • I attended church and other religious activities, went for deliverance....I caught the fire also started developing an addiction to Emmanuel TV like my folks are. lol.
  • Met someone new-on the phone, we haven't seen face to face. We chat alot and he calls alot. I prefer chatting to calling though.
  • I also am in constant chat with another guy- we went too UNN together he calls often too.
  • I couldn't go swimming as I planned. So sad as I didn't find an opportunity to display my hot bikini and trunk..
  • I was able to give my peeps little Xmas gifts.  They were all very excited. I wish I could do much more. Still owe them though.
  • Also did some Xmas gifting to two people. Still have a lot on my list who I owe. Will find time in the year to do that.
This year I hope to blog more. Smile more, Give more. Work more, Socialize more, Pray more, Play more, Eat more, Sleep more. and Daydream less. lol

Thursday, December 13, 2012

This can't be real

How do I start this story?
....An elder colleague who sit on my right in the office (he used to buy me biscuits everyday)  always calls me 'the girl from afikpo'. I always corrected him, insisting I'm not from that place and he should stop saying I come from there.

Fast forward to some weeks ago....

On one of my tiring trips home from work, I got a free lift at my final bus-stop to my house gate. He (The man who gave me the lift), tried chatting, but I was in no mood to respond cos I was damn tired. He told me his name and some other stuffs which I forgot when I got home. I gave him my number anyways (something I noticed I always do these day-you don't know were PP can come from).

After some time, I received a call from someone and he had to explain before I remembered who he was.
He calls at intervals but I always give him an legit excuses for not wanting to see him.

Fast forward to Yesterday
He called again and I finally told him where he could meet me (Same bus-stop he picked me up on the first day).
I got to the bus-stop and we met. He suggested we went somewhere to sit over a drink and chat. I refused and said he could talk while he took me to my gate. While he asked question, I noticed I only answered in monosyllabic sentences.  He irritates me-anyways, I was trying so hard to be nice. I remembered he asked me what my genotype was. I told him, then he blabbed about how a relationship he had failed because they were both AS. He also asked what my likes and dislikes were. I told him they were numerous. Finally ended up telling him I hated liars and dirt. I emphasized on the "dirt" because his car, probably him smelt funny. He mentioned he was from Afikpo and some thoughts crossed my mind. I was like what if the colleague in my office was prophesying into my life, anyway I was saying a silent God forbid. He is damn Ugly.

Btw...I had a dream last night. In it , i saw DO and very close Igbo friend. The Summary of the dream was basically that I'll  always come second in DO's life. If the dreams means anything...I'll find out by the end of this week. Today at work, he was acting sorta cold. I asked if i offended him in anyway and he said no. My conscience is clear.